I grew up in the Barrie area and married my kindergarten boyfriend after years of the universe constantly bringing us back into each other's lives. I currently work as a registered massage therapist, reiki practitioner and tarot card reader in Midland, Orillia and Barrie. I have a psychology degree from Laurentian University but completed most of my undergrad in Ottawa. I believe by addressing individual client needs in a holistic way, you can help reduce stress and increase client comfort in order to maintain a healthy mind, body and soul. In my spare time I am the busy mom of three little ones under the age of ten. I am a Capricorn, 3/5 Generator, Enneagram 1, words are my love language and I enjoy practicing yoga and give it so much credit for helping to transform my mindset.
You can almost always find me with my family, listening to podcasts or audiobooks, learning human design, redecorating spaces and I believe a good morning routine brings happiness throughout the day. I also really love plants, gardening, watching football with my husband and chasing sunsets. I believe our bodies tell the story of our lives and that healing encompasses the physical, mental and spiritual bodies.
I used to believe that money would always control my choices and that the amount of money I had amounted to my success as a human being. But I am a successful human being despite the number in my bank account, and I know money is an energy that I am grateful to receive in abundance.
The beliefs come from early childhood. I believe like most self limiting beliefs and my own beliefs around success grew from those beliefs until they became the negative and scarce foundation for how I defined myself.
This old story held me back from truly living. It kept me playing small, people pleasing, chronically anxious, lonely and depressed. I doubted myself and never believed I was worthy of wealth or abundance. It kept me from taking chances on myself, I was in constant fight or flight and it took away my ability to be in the moment.
When I found out we were pregnant with our third and final baby after years of unexplained infertility I knew I wanted to birth them into the world in a healthy and positive state of mind. During my pregnancy the pandemic was very much everywhere, it made my work life heavy and I burned out hard. It was that moment, crying on the floor in my kitchen that I decided to choose myself. I took an early maternity leave (my first one) and I made a promise to myself and my baby that things were going to change. For me it started with a journal, affirmations and gratitude.
Reading this question made my heart sink. I don't like to go back to that dark place very often, I don't like spending time thinking about the what if's. I will say it was amazing for me to realize that you don't have to live everyday with crippling and debilitating anxiety; and that in just one year, by making little and consistent changes my life would transform so positively into the life and mental health I always wanted but for so long just seemed impossibly out of reach.
My new story or the story I am living out currently are all the things I manifested in the last few years and that gives me the ultimate butterflies. My life is far from perfect but it is simple, good, full of love and it brings me so much happiness. I know I am capable of anything I set my mind to.
Personal growth and empowerment are so important because I believe they are the big foundational pieces for birthing confidence and self confidence changes everything. You become magnetic to calling in all of the abundance you desire.
This one took a lot of practice but I continuously envision the life I want to live and do my best to make habits and choices based on what that version of myself would do. I have my own routines and rituals that when things get hard my ego tries to convince me I don't need but coming back to those on the hard days is always so powerful, transformative and worth it. Hard and bad things aren't happening to me they are happening for me, so staying neutral until it all plays out has also been a game changer.
Being a strong woman to me means standing up and supporting all women. It is showing up with integrity, kindness, compassion and love. It is opening your heart and your mind to others ideas and opinions. It is continuously showing up for others and yourself. A strong woman leads by example and does so quietly for she is not in it for the recognition or the glory but to change the hearts and minds of other women, to show them we can all have it all, together.
Personal growth and doing the hard inner work has completely changed me on a cellular level it feels like. I owe a lot of this to my coach and mentor for the past year, Becca Nicholls. Doing this work has brought me on a journey of truly falling in love and accepting myself for the first time in my life. I look at everything differently. My self awareness is unmatched and I know this is just the beginning.
A woman that inspires me is my coach/mentor Becca Nicholls. Her integrity, soul, confidence, work ethic, personality - it all inspires me to be my best self and to never ever settle. Marley Rose Harris is another woman who inspires me, how she transformed herself from rock bottom, her huge heart, how she created and grew two successful multi figure businesses, to travelling the world. I feel like I have learned so much from these two women in the past year and I am eternally grateful.
My work and my family make my heart beam. I follow the light by being true to who I am, following my strong intuition, creating boundaries that feel right in my soul and stepping outside of my comfort zone to challenge myself and to push myself to new limits of growth. I don't like to put myself into any kind of box, I like to see how creative I can be with something and I think that always makes the light feel a little brighter.
Rewrite that limiting belief every darn day and say it out loud to yourself until you believe it. Hire a coach/mentor that feels right in your soul to help you until you do believe that you hold all of the power to be or do anything you want in this life. The first step is actually truly believing you are deserving though otherwise all the other work is a waste of time and you will continuously block yourself and your dreams.
"No one is you that is your superpower"
You can find Natasha on Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/natashasmyth_/
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My name is Brianna Petersen and I am a 5/2 self projected projector (Human Design). I am a mom to a beautiful little girl, a wife and also a dog and guinea pig mama too. I absolutely love connecting with people and through this I decided to jump into a second business adventure (The Social Connection HD).
I love reading, listening to really loud music, I love travelling (although I also really love my home so I do get homesick - like that one time I went to Thailand and cried on day 6 because I wanted my own bed and I also wanted a sandwich which I couldn't locate anywhere - hello culture shock, but also best time ever). My passions and goals have evolved over time. From wanting to scale the corporate world, to being a stay at home mom to now growing my second small business. My life has been full of change and experiences (highs and lows) that have brought me to where I am today.
I am an extrovert when out with people, I love to absorb and amplify the energy in the room. But I am also a huge introvert and love to hermit at home most evenings with some trashy reality tv!
Oh do I ever have a list of these! One that sticks out as I'm writing this is the limiting belief that I do not know enough. I cannot start a business involving energetics and Human Design, like who am I to think I can actually guide people and teach embodiment and energy releasing, etc. And to this day I still have moments where there is doubt and those limiting beliefs sneak in, even with all of the work I've done on myself. We are humans, we are not perfect, we are constantly rebalancing our energies. This was a big one in starting my business and creating offers. Do I know enough? Will people actually want to join my offers? Who do I think I am?
Over the last year, and the last few months especially, I have really worked on these limiting beliefs, not making them mean anything and confidently showing up as my true self. Even if that looks different from years ago. Again, we are ever evolving.
Societal Conditioning. We grow up seeing these inspirational people, we want to be like them. But we forget that they also had to start somewhere, that they also have limiting beliefs and their success didn't happen overnight. We are also praised for following conventional norms (such as working in the corporate world, holding a 9-5 job, educating ourselves on certain topics, etc.). So when we step out of this comfortable space, and when people don't always understand what we are doing, it can cause us to really judge ourselves and to second guess our next steps. Hello limiting beliefs and imposter syndrome! It's always there, but can we work through it and truly believe in ourselves and our unique gifts.
I think I kind of answered this above? Anyways maybe add on that I had to take the leap, trust myself and lean on those around me (friends, family, small biz community) who believed in all of the unconventional steps I was taking. I had to feel the highs and lows and I had to actually work through the limiting beliefs rather than push them aside where they would stew and show up even stronger the next time.
I educated myself, I went into my past and pulled up all of the blocks and also all of the things I loved about my previous careers and personal life. I then looked at where I am now and where I want to be, while also acknowledging the room for evolution. I have not only decided to stand in my power but I have also needed to learn to embody the feeling of success. And success looks different for everyone. So once I figured out what this looked like, I had to learn to embody it. Hello manifestation!
And I'm not saying 9-5 jobs or corporate world careers are wrong or bad, they can be great! Heck I loved my job for such a long time! But all in all, I've come to the realization that the conventional career world just isn't for me. This is for me.
I would still be a Financial Advisor (I don't even like investment talk, I prefer mortgages and estates haha). I would be making the most out of this life of course, but I would always have that missing piece. I felt it for years, even after I started my first business (Unwrapped), there was always something missing) And now I've found it! Life is just that much more exciting and I'm so grateful I figured it out.
Everything Happens For A Reason. I've always lived by these words, but they mean even more now. From the spiritual side of my business, to the energetics. Some things just can't be explained. I truly believe that even when days are tough, everything happens for a reason.
It is so easy for us to hide. It is so easy for us to follow the norm. It is so easy for us to stay the same. But when we step out of our comfort zone, when it isn't always easy, there is this energetic upgrade, this adrenaline, this power that I believe is important for everyone to feel throughout their lifetime. We cannot grow until we step out of our comfort zone. And we feel that empowerment when we are growing and experiencing new feelings, new connections, new pleasures.
I believe that growth and empowerment are some of the stepping stones to true happiness in life. Because without it, wouldn't life be so boring?
It's not always easy! And I say that with intensity! There are days I just cant get out of my head, there are days of energy lows and limiting beliefs galore. But instead of making them mean something, I feel them, I switch my day around to give myself space. Sometimes it can be healthy to "sit in my shit" - as my coach Kari would say. We are humans, we ebb and flow and we are going to have difficulties, its life! But its how we work through it that matters most. Giving myself space and not should'ing on myself are key. Extra grounding, reaching out to a friend, going for a drive with loud music, stepping away from work for an hour, or even a day, using my Healy to help support my body and emotions. There are so many ways we can show up for ourselves when going through hard times. You just have to find what works best for you.
A strong women is someone who has gone through the good, but also experienced the bad. She has walked through the mud and sat through the rain. But what makes her strong is that she came out of it alive. She came out of it accepting that she went through it and then facing forward to rise above it all. She doesn't allow anything to get in her way or turn her around. A strong women is in all of us - we just have to believe in ourselves!
I'm not perfect, far from it. But because of this inner work I am accepting of it. I accept myself for who i am, I accept myself for the decisions I've made, and I accept myself for the experiences I have gone through. Not a day goes by that I am not grateful, even when the day is a mess and I want it to be over. I am grateful I get to try again tomorrow. And this minute did not exist before I decided to step into the inner work (and boy can it be messy!)
My daughter. I actually have a tear in my eye as I write this. I see her and how she shows up authentically every single day. How she experiments with her self expression, her emotions, her energy. It's all over the place and it's not always easy being a parent, but seeing her work through what so many adults block is so beautiful. She see's this world with such a different sense, and I can only hope that I will be able to guide her to continue to feel free in being her authentic, self expressed, genuine self as she grows up. I'm always following her light.
One step at a time, one day at a time. But you have to be ready, you have to be ready to feel the discomfort, to dive into things that may not feel good at first. We cannot see the light until we first walk through the darkness to find it. Reach out to me or to anyone who you feel can genuinely support you. Doing it all alone is not recommended. There are times for solidarity, absolutely, but having someone in your corner is just another step to crushing those limiting beliefs.
Song: I am here - P!ink!
I just held space for a group of women this past weekend. And this song spoke to me to share. I highly recommend listening to it. Take what resonates and leave behind what doesn't. I know you will find empowerment within this song, I definitely did. And it's going to help lead me through the remainder of 2023 and beyond.
Brianna Petersen, Human Design & Energetics Coach at The Social Connection HD.
Listen to Brianna's guest episode on The Spirit Unleashed Podcast.
Unlocking Business Success: Learn the 6 Things I Wish I Knew Before Becoming a Small Business Owner:
Set aside your ego, the part of you that keeps you comfortable and safe or producing just to keep up, and instead lead from the place that will never steer you wrong; your heart. You may not always agree or love what your heart is saying, but you can trust that where it takes you is for your highest good.
There’s a quote that says mistakes are proof you’re trying! And I agree, especially in business. Trying to avoid mistakes and hiccups will only keep you boxed in and never reaching your full potential. Most of our growth comes from making a mistake, so you might as well embrace and learn from them.
Goals help when you aren’t feeling motivated. They keep you determined, consistent, and on track. Any time I am working without a clear goal I get sidetracked, unmotivated, and confused. Get specific, know what you’re working towards, and just go for it.
Sometimes you need to pivot, that’s okay! Look at the redirection as another opportunity to use your creativity and resources to find a solution.
The most important cheerleader you need to have rooting for you, is yourself. It’s not that your family and friends don’t want you to succeed or be happy, it’s just that they don’t always understand your path. Spoiler alert, they don’t need to. Many of us are conditioned to believe the only path is the structured 9-5 with the pension and health benefits. There isn’t anything wrong with that, and there isn’t anything wrong with your path either.
Schedule the time and make it happen, just like you would a lunch date with a friend. I’m not opposed to hustle, I believe aligned action is required, yet if we don’t make time for rest, our family, friends, and hobbies that still light us up, then what’s the point of being your own boss? I hear people joke that they left their 9-5 to work 24/7, but with the proper schedule and time management it doesn’t need to be like that.
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Why is self-awareness important? Because without it, most of us tend to live on autopilot. We live in a fast paced world, one where we are encouraged to be onto the next and the next while hardly thinking twice about how we actually feel or what we're doing. When on autopilot we don't recognize, let alone question, limiting thought patterns. We don't fully live in the moment or process our emotions, and you can bet we are likely making decisions out of fear instead of our heart. And at one time or another, we've all seen where that can lead us!
Here are 5 Ways to Improve Your Self-Awareness:
Write down your thoughts, plans, where you feel stuck, where you’re excited, and watch for patterns. Get clear on where you’d like to be and how you want to feel. Then, create a plan that gets you there. Your life is your responsibility.
If you aren’t sure where to start when it comes to journaling, check out our guided journals. Our best seller for women is The Making of a Strong Woman.
Keep a daily gratitude list. By doing so, you will get in the practice of acknowledging what’s important to you while deepening your connection to the things and people around you. Practicing gratitude only takes minutes of your day, yet the awareness and benefits that come with the practice lingers for much longer.
Once or twice a day, have a timed notification prompt you with: Am I aware?
Then, look around and look within. Where are you? What are you doing? How are you feeling emotionally and physically? Are your thoughts positively serving you?
Cultivating self-awareness in your life is essential. It helps you maintain a healthy balance between your thoughts and emotions while using your knowledge of self to create the life you desire. Keep an eye out for patterns and don't be afraid to create a new pattern that supports a life of love, inner peace, and compassion.
Still curious about self-awareness? Be sure to read 7 Benefits of Becoming Self-Aware
]]>Knowing who you really are through self-discovery is more important than ever. So many of us feel lost, alone, or that we don’t fit in. We listen to the external noise instead of looking and listening within. Whether you’re finding yourself or creating yourself, here are 7 things that happen when you’re self-aware and a few tips to help guide you on your journey.
Having a relationship with yourself is just as important as your relationship with your family and friends. It’s recognizing thought patterns, being aware of and understanding emotions, knowing your strengths and challenges, and wholeheartedly appreciating your truest self.
Self-discovery can sound intimidating, but it doesn’t need to be. It mirrors the exciting stage of getting to know a new partner, finding out their likes/dislikes, showing compassion, and accepting them as they are (quirks and all!).
There are many benefits of knowing your true self, let’s dive in to them!
Have you ever found yourself saying yes to something you didn’t really want to do? When we know ourselves, trust ourselves, and value ourselves, we begin to say no without fear or guilt, and with greater confidence. Saying no to things that aren’t aligned with your goals, values and beliefs comes easier with self-discovery because you stay true to yourself and what feels right to you. More saying no to what doesn’t align with yourself, and more saying yes to things that light you up. Tip: Say no, or politely decline an invitation, without giving an explanation.
Read 5 Ways to Become More Self-Awareness for more inspiration.
If you’re ready to discover who you really are, or celebrate your authentic self, please check out our guided self-care journals!
Your Friend,
Robyn
]]>It's true, love makes the world go round, yet we often forget that includes self-love. Self-love makes the world go round, too. How we treat our selves matters deeply. It matters because it is the foundation of life and ultimately dictates how we will feel and treat those around us. When we have compassion for ourselves, we can offer compassion for others. When we treat ourselves with kindness, we can offer kindness to others. Everything starts within.
So here are my top 11 self-love quotes to help you feel empowered, inspired and ready to look within.
Do you remember keeping a diary as a child? The one with the flimsy lock that didn’t need the key to open? The one you hid in your sock drawer so your siblings or parents wouldn’t read? The one you vented about your boy troubles or teenage drama in? I sure do. Who knew that one day, that simple and easy practice of journal writing, would have so many powerful benefits. Benefits that leak into many facets of our lives.
The benefits of journaling are quite impressive, here I have narrowed them down. Summarizing how they can benefit your daily life, mental health, relationships, and more.
Putting pen to paper really is magic. And I hope you get to experience that magic each and every day!
Benefits of Journaling for Self-Care
Somewhere along the line, self-care became taking a shower, grocery shopping alone, getting your nails done, and sitting in the car until your favourite song was over. While I highly recommend all of those, they aren’t self-care. They hardly scratch the surface.
Self-care is an inward movement - it’s self-awareness. It’s uncovering patterns that no longer serve you. It’s celebrating the highs and lows. It’s focusing on what you can control and releasing what you can’t. It’s the remembering of who you really are. It’s trading an external search for an inner knowing.
Journaling can amplify self-awareness substantially.
Adding a journal to your self-care routine has many benefits. Journaling is a practice that guides your attention to your inner thoughts and emotions. Encouraging you to drown out the daily noise and advertisements that tell you, quite literally 24/7, who and what you are.
When you journal for self-care, you remember who you are. You remember your worth and that you aren’t your experiences. You uncover patterns that no longer serve you and can move your focus to who, deep down, you really are. Self-care is the return to self. And when you return to self, you no longer let the world tell you who you are. You become empowered and confident.
If you’re new to journaling, and aren’t sure where to start, I recommend a guided self-care journal, such as The Making of a Strong Woman.
The Making of a Strong Woman journal is a simple, inspiring, mindfully created guide that encourages self-reflection. You can answer one question a day, or ten, it’s your call. It can help you look for the positive and focus on the lessons and experiences that have only made you stronger. But most of all, the journal will remind you that you’ve always been strong.
Benefits of Journaling for Mental & Physical Health:
If used properly, journaling can be one of the greatest tools for mental health. It is cost effective and readily available. You can write in your journal any time of the day, both digitally or by pen and paper (our preferred method). It has been around, I’d like to say, forever. If you want to reap the mental health benefits of journaling, I encourage you to proceed with an intention. You don’t want to sit down with your journal and only vent, only complain, only focus on the pain and suffering. Yes, journal writing is a great tool for releasing. But you also need to shift perspective, be mindful of your thought patterns, and look in the direction you’d like to go. Not just where you currently are, especially if it’s unpleasant.
Our mental health is our responsibility, and journaling has been scientifically proven to have a positive impact.
The benefits of journaling for mental and physical health include (but certainly aren’t limited to):
If you aren’t taking care of your mental health, you are at risk of becoming the 1 in 5 who experiences a mental illness in Canada. That is a staggering statistic and one shared from the Centre of Addiction and Mental Health.
Benefits of Journaling for Relationships:
How do we improve your relationships with others? Typically, we improve our relationships by improving our relationship with ourselves. Think about it, how can we improve our relationships when the relationship with ourselves is rocky or unstable? We can’t. We need a solid foundation. One that doesn’t crumble easily. Yes, there are times when the relationship is unhealthy, and we need to leave or distance ourselves. Today though, we are focusing on healthy relationships that just need a little extra TLC.
Journaling builds self-awareness, which encourages us to better understand what we need (and deserve) from our relationships. And since journaling encourages empowerment, we have the confidence to communicate our needs, and set boundaries, with our loved ones.
Journaling benefits relationships by helping us focus on the positives. It also encourages practicing gratitude for those we love, and improves our mental health so we can fully show up in our relationships.
If you are a mother, you may be interested in our guided journal for moms, The Making of a Mother. A journal created for you to celebrate motherhood while building a family keepsake. There is nothing easy about parenting and being a mother, but there are some pretty special moments that strengthen our relationships.
Benefits of Journaling for Goals:
A psychology professor at Dominican University in California, completed a study using 267 participants. Her study determined that we are 42% more likely to achieve our goals if we write them down. I cannot argue with her as many of my own personal goals have been reached after I’ve written them down.
So why does writing our goal down help us achieve it? Because writing helps us focus on what we want. It helps us get clear about our intentions, goals, and desires. Next time you have a goal, use your journal. Write down your goal in your journal.
Benefits of writing your goal in your journal are:
If you are an entrepreneur and would like to celebrate your business, and create or track your goals, you may be interested in our guided journals, The Making of an Entrepreneur, and The Making of an Entrepreneur Boss Babe Edition.
Benefits of Journaling for Stress:
Many of us put ourselves in auto-pilot all day, doing, doing, doing, so that by the time the day ends, we crash - quite literally - on the couch for hours. We are stressed to the max. Then, we feed our minds with shows and entertainment that, when we break down what we’re watching, aren’t actually adding anything positive to our lives. So why do we do this? Are we just tired? Are we overly stimulated throughout the day? Are we so stressed we’d rather continue to numb or worry ourselves rather than get to the root cause?
Stress is… stressful! There’s no doubt about it. So how can journaling help relieve stress?
Journaling can help relieve stress because it helps us pinpoint what the stressor is. It helps us identify the trigger and root cause. And once we know the root cause, we can weed it out and find a path that will work better and more efficiently for us.
Where we need to say no.
Where we can communicate and ask for help.
Where we need to replace negative thoughts with positive self-talk.
And, where we need to free up space and energy so we can avoid burnout.
Life doesn’t have to be hard or stressful. It’s too short for that.
Allow life to be light and fun and exciting.
Allow yourself to slow down.
Benefits of Journaling for Gratitude:
Jane Fuller said, “A grateful heart is a magnet for miracles,” and she’s right!
When we incorporate gratitude in to our daily lives, and allow it to become a way of life, we can significantly transform our lives. And not just our lives, but anyone we come in contact with. Gratitude truly is contagious and deserves a place in our lives! It’s so much more than the random thank you to the lady who held the door for you two weeks ago. Gratitude is about waking up, saying thank you for even opening your eyes, and acknowledging all the blessings life offers us.
To add gratitude into your day, we suggest keeping a gratitude journal. It can improve your sleep, encourage optimism, lower stress, and improve your mental health. Each morning or evening, write out 5-10 things, people, or experiences, you’re grateful for and why.
For example:
I am so grateful for the sun shining brightly today because my garden needed it!
We can just write what we are grateful for, but The Magic by Rhonda Byrne, emphasizes the importance of adding the why element. From firsthand experience, it amplifies the gratitude and makes it much easier to feel grateful.
If you would like your child to learn about gratitude, we recommend our children’s gratitude journal The Making of a Grateful Heart. It helps children look for the positives in their day and instills the early practice of gratitude.
Benefits of Journaling for Memory:
Have you heard the phrase, “use it or lose it” before? That’s how we feel about our memories. We need to use our memory! And what better way to put our memories to use than with a journal.
Let’s remember the laughs with our friends over dinner.
Let’s remember our first date.
Let’s remember the funny (and sassy) thing our child said.
Let’s remember how loved we felt on our birthday.
Let’s remember our family stories so we can pass them down.
There are so many great experiences and feelings to remember, and journaling helps us do that. Keeping a journal doesn’t only help us relive adventures, it increases our memory. And not only that, it can also increase our memory capacity. Who knows, maybe it will even help us remember where we put our cellphone or keys! You never know.
We love memory books, and recommend The Making of a Grandparent to preserve your grandparents memories.
Benefits of Journaling with Guided Prompts:
There is nothing fun about staring at a blank page, knowing you should journal because of the benefits, but not knowing what the heck to write. So don’t! Staring at the page will only frustrate and deter you further. Instead, find some journal prompts that relate to your stage of life and have fun with them.
There are many benefits of journaling with guided prompts:
They are easy to use
They help you focus and build the habit of journaling
They take the guesswork out of what to write about, and
They encourage you to reflect on topics you may not have otherwise.
There is no need to ever stare at a blank page again.
If you’re looking for some journal prompts, feel free to check out our guided journals or free journal prompts, such as:
Free journal prompts for self-love
Free journal prompts for insecurity
Free journal prompts for beginners
Free journal prompts for gratitude
Thank you, happy journaling!
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Have you ever written in your journal and received a response? Likely not, but you can. And you should!
I’m probably aging myself with this tidbit, but I grew up watching the T.V show Ghostwriter. In each episode, a ghost wrote in the kid’s notebook and they would solve a mystery. I started keeping a journal shortly after that show aired, probably in hopes of a ghost contacting me. A ghost didn’t contact me, but someone else now does.
My Higher Self.
Whether you refer to it as your Higher Self, favourite self, divine self, or inner knowing, it doesn’t matter. Let’s not get hung up on titles. When I refer to Higher Self, I’m referring to our true spirit. The part of us driven by love, compassion, and faith. The part within all of us who knows our inner struggles or doubts, who is aware, and knows the most aligned way forward. I like to think of my Higher Self as a live in best friend, who has the best of intentions and is a judgement free zone.
I write in my journal twice a day, and more times than not, one of those entries are from my Higher Self. This is a regular routine of mine that stemmed from going through my own challenges and bouts of self-doubt. The limiting beliefs crept in, and I didn’t want them to hold me back. So, I did what I love, I wrote, but from a new perspective.
Writing to yourself, from your Higher Self, may seem strange at first, but it has been the quickest way I’ve found to transform doubt into empowerment. Within a few sentences, you will be able to feel your own spirit or mood lift and it was you who did it. Knowing you are in charge of your emotions and mood is bittersweet. Most of us have the tendency to point the finger at those around us, driving us nuts and spoiling our day, but it truly is powerful to understand we are in the driver’s seat.
Benefits I have experienced firsthand, include:
Heightened intuition: a knowing that you just can’t explain, nor do you have to.
Better understanding of yourself: begin to see patterns, awareness is everything.
Grateful: being aware helps us realize, and appreciate, all the wonderful parts of our lives we may not have noticed.
Unconditional love: we don’t need to wait until we are perfect to love ourselves. I, personally, am a work in progress, and that’s okay.
Bye bye negativity: we can be our own worst critics, but through awareness, there is a softening of compassion.
Sample #2:
You are starting to use your voice, and not just verbally. You speak your mind and truth, yes, but there’s more to it than that. You aren’t just saying, “no,” you’re saying, “yes.” You’re saying yes to moments, whole foods, people, and experiences that feel aligned. Your body and your heart tell you when something is right, and you follow it with love and curiosity. In doing so, you are re-learning how to express yourself and it’s never felt better. Am I right?
Now, it’s your turn!
Your Higher Self is waiting to connect with you. Take a deep breath, ask your inner self what you need to hear, and write. Practice makes progress, you just have to start.
Happy journaling!
Please feel free to check out my guided journals or free journal prompts.
]]>Redefining self-care has made a drastic improvement in my daily life, and that’s because it’s incorporating ideas and activities that go deeper than the surface. How have I redefined self-care? By not relying on outings or temporary experiences for fulfillment and joy. When we find peace, happiness, abundance and awareness within, we are happy before those experiences and in turn enjoy them even more. We also are less likely to encounter meltdowns and constantly being stressed or overwhelmed.
I encourage you to read on as I explain how redefining self-care, by looking within, can help you live a confident, happier and mindful life.
What is Self-Care?
Self-care isn’t always pretty. I’m sure you weren’t expecting that as an opening, but we have this idea in our minds that self-care is spa days and walks along the beach. In reality a large part of self care is self discovery, looking within, awareness, knowing who you truly are, listening to your heart and finding what balances you emotionally. Yes, this can be done during a bubble bath or morning tea but it requires consistency, openness, trust, time, patience and quiet. The challenge with relying solely on baths and tea for self care is that typically when we do these actives we’re also doing others, aka multi-tasking. When we’re in the bath or enjoying a tea we’re also reading a book, texting a friend, making a to-do list in our minds and so on.
Life is busy, actually that’s an understatement, life is chaotic. We’re pulled in every which direction, we overextend ourselves and we forget to make ourselves a priority like we do everyone else. By doing this we give the world, our work, our families and friends the rest of us instead of the best of us. When you incorporate self care into your daily routine you fill your cup, recharge your mind, body and soul and stay in your power instead of having to step back into it. When you’re fully yourself you make decisions based on what’s best for you, you stay present and you say no to anything that goes against your values, beliefs and inner truth.
By all means, continue the baths, lunch dates and spa weekends, but also take time for self care that looks within on a deeper level. Self-care that leaves you feeling whole, in tune with your self and not in need of an escape.
Self-care isn’t selfish. It’s how you keep your power, live an empowered life and make the most of every moment.
Who Should Practice Self-Care?
There’s a lot of talk about mom’s needing self-care, which is true, however it’s something everyone should practice and could benefit from. Men, women, parents, teachers, essential workers, teenagers and even children. Self-care won’t necessarily eliminate life’s obstacles, however it better equips you to face them with self awareness, confidence, positivity and clarity.
Benefits of Practicing Self-Care
If you can make the personal commitment to ensure your inner wellbeing is a priority, you will reap the many benefits of practicing self-care. Having a routine of self-care is essential for maintaining your mental health, physical health and overall happiness. Some of our favourite benefits of practicing self-care are:
The Ultimate Self-Care Routine Example
Alright, now that you’ve read the benefits of self care, and why redefining it is valuable, its time to make yourself a personal commitment to prioritize yourself. An important step to incorporating self care into your daily routine is:
Making a personal commitment with yourself and,
Scheduling self-care into your daily routine.
Everyone’s routine and schedule is different, but here is a look into mine to give you an idea! Do what works for you, and YOUR schedule. If you try to follow a routine that’s unrealistic for your schedule it will be harder to follow and stick to.
7:30 am - 5 minute gratitude journal entry
9:00 am - 15 minutes of yoga and 5 minutes of meditation
3:00 pm - Walk outdoors for a minimum of 30 minutes
9:30 pm - 30-45 minutes for bath / journal entry / meditation
Throughout the day I will hike in the forest, and I even have an hourly reminder set on my phone that asks “Am I aware?” This is to ensure I stop what I’m doing, take a breath and be in the present no matter what I’m doing (even the dishes!). I’ve been unplugging in the evenings at 9:30 pm to ensure I have quiet time to reconnect with myself, calm my mind and reflect before bed.
Our Top 10 Favourite Self-Care Ideas:
These are our favourite self care ideas that reconnect you with yourself and your surrounding. They encourage you to thrive and not just survive. Take time to pause, check in with yourself often and look around at the beauty this earth holds.
1. Guided meditation
2. Silent meditation
3. Reflect in your journal
4. Gratitude practice in your journal
5. Sit or stand outside with your bare feet on the earth for grounding
6. Nature walk taking in all of the sounds, animals and beauty
7. Write yourself a letter
8. Detox bath
9. Rest, nap, full nights sleep
10. Yoga or your favourite way to move your body
I hope we have inspired you to re-evaluate, or create a self-care routine that works for you. You deserve to feel and do your best, and that happens when you are connected with yourself. When you are connected with yourself you will be able to live life empowered, confident and peacefully. Don’t wait until you are overwhelmed or stressed to the max to practice self-care, start today with even a few minutes each day. You deserve to make yourself a priority!
Please be sure to check out our prompted self care and keepsake journals to add to your self care routine. And, our free journal prompts for self love.
All the best!
Robyn
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I am the woman least likely to end up a suburban minivan mom. Yet here I am.
My path to this place was not an easy one. My struggles with depression and addiction began in my teen years and lasted well into adulthood. I was 27 when I got sober, and I thought my problems would end there. But they didn’t.
Growing up with an emotionally abusive father I didn’t know what a healthy relationship looked like. At 19 I moved in with my boyfriend at the time. AFTER an assault resulting in 23 stitches around my eye.
He was the worst, but not the end of my abusive relationships. I found myself in yet another one as I was getting my life back together. I endured 6 long years of verbal and emotional abuse, giving as much as I took.
The death of a close friend shifted something inside of me. My fear of being alone was replaced by the determination to be unapologetically ME and the knowledge that the relationship I was in would never get better.
I moved fast. I began art therapy. I moved out within a matter of weeks. And, over the next 18 months learned to truly love myself.
The man who would become my husband was different. He treated me with love and kindness from the moment we started dating and every moment since. Our love has always been mutual, not one sided. Today we have a wonderful home with two kids. He is my rock, and I am his. He is not just a wonderful partner but an incredible dad as well.
If you are in an abusive relationship know that it is NOT YOU. Shame and embarrassment holds us back from reaching out to the people who can help. But I found no judgement when I did. Instead I found the help and support I needed.
If it hurts it isn’t love.
~ Holly Trimnell
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If you, or someone you know, is in an abusive relationship please seek help. A few resources you could use are:
]]>I’ve realized back to school will have it’s challenges no matter which method your family has chosen. To help, even a little, I’ve put together 3 Tips To Help Your Kids Cope With Back To School. These are all things we are doing in our home that have been effective and keep us staying positive!
As parents we need to check in with our children and ask them how they’re feeling or doing. Many parents are working from home and are busy, but it’s important to stay connected. Our kids don’t always know how to tell us when they are concerned or have fears, however, there are usually visual signs of anxiety or stress such as:
Questions You Could Ask Your Child:
The most important part of asking questions is being patient and listening to their responses. Sometimes kids are vague in explaining, so more often than not, follow up questions are needed. Asking questions about back to school shows your child you are open, willing and available for conversations. If your children are anything like mine they insist on deep conversations at bedtime. Although the timing isn’t ideal, it’s always a good idea to listen to what they’re asking especially if it’s a concern.
2. Stay Informed
We as humans love information. It’s why Google is such a popular search engine, it’s why the news is always on and why we have our phones by our side at all times. Children are no different, they are curious, always taking in information and learning. As a parent I do watch how much information I’m giving them about COVID-19, however, I have been keeping them informed about safety precautions. If your family has chosen returning to school there will likely be additional safety measures to get familiar with.
Your child will be learning of safety measures in the classroom, but as the parent, be sure you are as well. Staying informed with up to date information or processes makes everyone a little more comfortable with the transition. And, when you are both informed you can have better conversations and feel more comfortable about it.
3. Stay Positive While Staying Safe
However back to school looks like to you and your family it’s important you stay positive. That doesn’t mean you can’t be open about struggles or have bad days, it simply means looking for the good and focusing on what you can control. Stress and anxiety come from focusing on things we can’t control, so stay present, mindful and positive about back to school. A few ways your family can do this together is:
Back to school can still be a fun and exciting experience, whether it’s in the class or in the home! Children watch what we do more than they listen to what we say, so be sure to express your concerns but also show them your enthusiasm. School in 2020 will be much different then we are all used to, however it can still be enjoyable.
I hope your child’s return to school is safe, fun and positive no matter where it is!
Here are a few resources for back to school anxiety you may find helpful!
https://www.cheo.on.ca/en/resources-and-support/resources/P6225E.pdf
https://www.anxietycanada.com/articles/7-tips-for-educators-returning-to-school-during-covid-19/
https://www.anxietycanada.com/articles/helping-your-child-cope-with-back-to-school-anxiety/
https://www.verywellfamily.com/tips-to-ease-back-to-school-anxiety-620832
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My identity was defined the moment they placed my first born daughter on my chest. That moment shaped me to be the woman I am today and continue to aspire to be. I also have to give it up to the people who continue to believe in me and push me to be better, my village.
Here’s some background. My name is Sandy Esprit and I am a wife, stay at home mom, content creator, and the list goes on. Before all of that, I was Sandy Tropnas. I was raised in the church, raised in a very conservative family. I went to school, studied really hard, graduated and started working to pay off my student loans. Despite, the appearance of my success, I was unfulfilled, unhappy and miserable. I didn’t believe in myself and doubted myself a lot. In fact, I couldn’t make a decision without the approval of several people, literally. It was bad. But I just wanted to be a “good” girl.
I had dreams and aspirations of being a singer-songwriter just so that I could inspire others to be the best version of themselves. I didn’t want anyone else feeling the way I did. It really just sucked. Therapy was a taboo topic in my house, so it’s not like I could go there or else I’d have to admit I was crazy. That wasn’t happening. Mental health was not a topic that could be discussed growing up.
I got married in 2015, then in 2016 I got pregnant, in 2017 I gave birth to this human who completely changed my life. I remember being afraid of how I would do, all forty weeks of my pregnancy. Then she came along and just trusted me with her life. I whispered into her ear, “I got you, I got you” then gave her a kiss on that wet slimy head of hers. Right there, I just knew I had everything I needed to take care of her and bring out the best of her to the surface. I knew she was the safest around me and nobody could tell me different. I also knew who I was because of who she was. Everything else no longer was a priority.
I used to live to work. I lived for that paycheck. I wanted to work and prove myself to be a essential wherever I was. I always showed up on time, worked overtime if necessary, I did my best and gave a lot of my energy to places and moments that looking back didn’t really matter.
Now here I am on maternity leave and the more time I spent with her, the more I liked it. Some mothers look forward to going back to work, that wasn’t me. Some mothers have a job they actually like and want to go back to, I hated my job. It stressed me out and the peace I had being with my daughter made me realize I deserved better. I wanted better. I needed better. Not just for me but for my family.
So I decided I was not going to go back to work…full-time. We still needed some financial stability. But I couldn’t commit to that kind of stress full-time. I also looked into being a social media influencer. I didn’t know everything but as an influencer, I wanted to help people live a life that could make them feel good and fulfilled. I became a part-time tutor for high school students, and that gave me a taste for entrepreneurship. I liked it. It was scary but I made a leap and it paid off. I started writing songs for recording artists. Once again, very scary but it was a passion of mine and it paid off. Then I created social media content and got paid. The higher I jumped, the bigger the pay off.
Little by little, I was re-writing the rules of engagements as it pertained to my happiness. I knew that contrary to what I was told growing up, I could monetize my talents and gifts. God had a purpose when He gave me those aspirations. I had to use them. Every gift and talent that I possessed was an answer to prayer and a way for me to live the life I had often dreamed of but never really believed I was worthy of. Seeing these opportunities open for me gave me hope and allowed to become a better mother, wife and overall human being. That’s what I like best about this journey of mine. I’m becoming a woman that I really like.
~ Sandy Esprit
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Start a gratitude journal! Jot down at least five things every morning that you’re grateful for.
Having a positive mindset and practicing gratitude is extremely beneficial in all circumstances. Honestly, Monday isn’t always my favourite day of the week either. However, when I feel my mindset shift in a negative direction I focus and remind myself Monday is a day like all others, and whether its at the beginning, middle or end of the week, I’m grateful I’m here to experience it.
Over the years those I’ve met who absolutely despise Monday’s have one thing in common - they aren’t happy with their job. This opens an entirely other conversation, but gratitude can still help. Sometimes there are jobs we need to do while working towards what we want to do. Finding gratitude is easy, and it can positively affect our mindset, mood and attitude along the way - even on a Monday morning!
Be intentional about your time and get excited for it! Use Monday as the day you set goals and intentions. This helps give your week purpose, something to work towards and a reason to stay focused. Whether your intention is to be patient with your children, job hunt, grow your network or make time for self-care, it’s important to be clear on what you want and need from the week.
Setting intentions gives you something to get excited about, and keeps you on track no matter what day it is. Write out your intentions for the week and keep it visible as a reminder of what you’re working towards personally or professionally.
Monday’s can be terrifying! You catch a glimpse of your family calendar while walking by the fridge and it’s covered in appointments, meetings, dinner dates and extra-curricular activities. Not only is this overwhelming, it’s a nightmare. What if we purposely said no to things, not because we’re already busy but because we don’t want to be busy? I’ve always felt life’s a competition on who is the busiest and that’s a competition I won’t compete in.
Clear a night, or two or three, in your week and give yourself a break and evening off to look forward to. Maybe it will be every Wednesday so you know you have a mid-week night all to yourself, or maybe it will be Monday night so you’re starting the week off rested. Whichever night, or day, you choose enjoy the quiet time.
Imagine how better of a day, or week we can have just by shifting our mindset around Monday’s. And how excited we could be on Monday’s if we gave it the same praise as Friday’s?! Start the week with a positive attitude of gratitude, set the tone for your week through intentions and make time for yourself!
Check out our collection of guided journals and use them as a tool for setting intentions, reflecting and celebrating you!
All the best,
Robyn
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1. I CONSIDER MYSELF AN ENTREPRENEUR MORE THAN AN AUTHOR
As much as I love writing, it’s really only 10%, or less, of the work. I view and treat self publishing as running a business. There’s marketing, sales, events, web design, shipping and the list goes on. What first inspired me to self publish was to help other families, and if I stopped at writing the journals, they likely wouldn’t have reached further than friends and family. So, I consider myself an entrepreneur who is determined, and consistently finding creative ways to get my journal collection out into the world and into your hands!
Okay, I knew it was going to be tough, but a part of me thought, “I’m finally aligning with what I was meant to do, so it’s all going to come together overnight and with ease”. Well, maybe not over night, but quickly. And, maybe it is happening quickly I just don’t realize because I’m in the middle of it and have nothing to compare to.
There are a few areas I find tough, working two jobs at once, balancing home and work life, creating exposure and being a “saleswoman”. I’ve always been the silent type (some may say shy), and putting myself and my work out into the world can sometimes feel intimidating. And, aside from being a mom, it’s been the most rewarding experience.
Regardless of how tough it can feel, I believe consistency and hard work pays off. So, I’m banking on the universe rising to my dreams and goals when it sees my stubbornness and determination!
I hoped my friends and family would be behind me when I first decided to self publish journals. But, I quickly realized they weren’t behind me, they were beside me. From proofreading to deliveries, or offering an ear to coming to events, they’ve been beside me every step of the way. Not only have friends and family members been supportive, the local community has been as well.
I had no idea how many people love supporting local businesses until this venture. I’m extremely grateful for everyone’s support, and I can acknowledge it’s played a huge part in the success of my books.
One of the strongest things we can do is ask for help. It took me awhile to ask for help, not just in business, but as a mom and woman. And, the truth is, I simply decided I can’t do it all. If I did I would be exhausted, working 24/7 and not having very much fun. And what would be the point of that? So, if there’s one thing I’ve learned it’s that sure, you probably could do it all but you don’t have to!
Whether it’s friends, family or my partner, I know they want to see me succeed and without their help, I wouldn’t be able to.
Feel free to review this blog and find as many comma errors as you’d like, it doesn’t bother me! Okay it does a little, but I will be the first to admit I’m not an English major, and there is a reason why I use an editor for the actual books and journals. My point is, you don’t have to be perfect at everything to begin or to be successful. Focus on your strengths and work with people who are able to fill in the gaps. By doing this myself I’m less stressed, less worried about being “perfect”, and I free up more time to do what I enjoy.
I’m sure as I proceed with this journey I will have more confessions to make, but I thought it’d be fun to share a bit of my behind the scenes thoughts. It’s easy to look at someone, especially in business, and think they have everything all together. Which, maybe they do, but with it comes quirks, struggles and everyday experiences just like yourself. As I reread this I’m reminded to not take myself or business so seriously. That it’s okay to not have everything figured out and to enjoy the ups and downs because without them, it’d likely be pretty boring.
Write. Reflect. Learn. Grow.
If you’re interested in journaling but don’t think you know how, or even if you keep a daily journal, please check out our collection of guided journals. Our keepsake journals provide a place for your story, reflection and growth.
All the best,
Robyn & Journals of Discovery
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Lesson One: Stop Comparing
This goes both personally and in business. It’s so easy to compare ourselves, our appearance, our success and which stage of our business we’re in. I have had the pleasure of meeting many business owners and I’m constantly reminding myself their path is different then mine. We are in different stages of growth and we’re headed to different destinations. What’s the point of comparing anyway? It does more harm than good, and it’s simply a waste of time. Instead, I’ve learned to stay focused on my own goals, milestones and mission and be happy for others along the way.
Lesson Two: A “No” isn’t a Dead End
If I quit the first time I heard “no”, I would’ve quit on my very first day. I still remember that first day like it was yesterday. My very first journal The Making of a Grandparent had been printed and I was visiting stores asking if they’d stock them. It only took an hour to hear my first “No”. Initially I was crushed, embarrassed and assumed everyone thereafter would say no, too. Clearly I was being overdramatic and soon realized “no” isn’t a dead end, it’s simply redirecting me to my destination. Don’t take a no personally, trust the redirection.
Lesson Three: Work Hard, Play Hard, Rest Harder
I always feel the pressure to work 24/7 and hustle, hustle, hustle. That, however, leads to exhaustion, being unproductive, burnout and a loss of passion. Instead, I work hard with realistic timeframes, play hard with family and rest as often as I can (which often includes carving out the time). It may not be a full weekend or week off, but there are numerous baths, quiet nights and yes, spa days with my girlfriends (as seen above - The Scandinave Spa is my favourite!). Rest and self-care is essential for all aspects of my life and makes me appreciate my business, family and myself on a deeper level.
Take time to journal and reflect on your year. Where have you grown? Where would you like to grow? And, what did you learn? There is an enormous amount of knowledge in our everyday being when we make time for reflection. Use your new experiences and insights to inspire and enhance your family life, your business journey and the connection with yourself.
Why reflecting is important:
We often hear "don't look back, you aren't going that way." But, I tend to disagree. Reflecting for me is about growth and finding lessons. These insights help better equip me for my future and what's to come while building confidence I can face it head on. I use journaling to reflect daily, but in a grander picture I enjoy reflecting on the year as a whole!
Write. Reflect. Learn. Grow.
If you’re interested in journaling but don’t think you know how, or even if you keep a daily journal, please check out our collection of guided journals. Our keepsake journals provide a place for your story, reflection and growth.
I wish you all the best for 2020!
Robyn
]]>After releasing The Making of a Grateful Heart, my children’s gratitude journal, parents were curious if I’d be writing a gratitude journal for adults, too. The answer is no, and here’s why. Because I wholeheartedly love and enjoy The Five Minute Journal by Intelligent Change, exactly as it is. I’ve added this journal into my daily routine, and there isn’t anything I would change about it. Simply put, I didn’t want to reinvent the wheel as I fully support this journal and the positive impact it can have.
We’re in a time where being busy is a competition. Who has the busiest schedule and who’s more tired at the end of the day. For myself, I actively strive to not be busy. And, it’s the days that are busy where I benefit greatly from gratitude. The busy days are physically and mentally draining. There’s limited time to take a deep breath, to stay grounded and firm in our being and there’s zero time for reflection. So, carving a few minutes out in the morning and evening with The Five Minute Journal, is my reminder to be still and appreciate the days moments.
WHAT IS THE FIVE MINUTE JOURNAL?
The five minute journal is simply that - a journal that's meant to take five minutes of your time! Taking only minutes of your day is a main selling feature of this journal, because we are in a "busy" world. This journal has two sections, one that you fill out in the morning and one you fill out at the end of the day.
The morning section encourages a positive start to your day - what you're grateful for, what would make the day great and a positive affirmation created by you for you. The evening section reflects on your day in a positive manner as well - three amazing things that happened that day and how you could have made the day better. Both encourage mindfulness and a growth mindset.
THE DIFFERENCE SINCE STARTING THE FIVE MINUTE JOURNAL
I’ve always been a mindful person and prior to having a gratitude journal I’ve incorporated thankfulness in my day. The difference I’ve noticed with keeping a separate gratitude journal is I’m now taking responsibility for my day. My favourite question in the journal is “What would make today great?”, and it’s really put daily life into perspective. This question allows me to focus on each day as it comes, and on what I can control (not on what I can’t). I have goals, and trust me they’re BIG, so keeping my feet on the ground and being in the moment today, allows me the concentration and resilience needed for getting there.
Here’s a look at one of my personal entries for The Five Minute Journal:
TIPS ON HOW TO USE THE FIVE MINUTE JOURNAL
For me, if it’s out of sight it’s out of mind. So, I keep my journal where I can see it, and I’ve made a promise to myself that I won’t brush my teeth in the morning or evening until I’ve written my entry. It may sound silly, but this way it’s guaranteed I will take the time to write because I surely won’t leave the house in the morning or go to bed without brushing my teeth! Whatever works, right?!
Another way to use this journal is to bring it with you on holidays. Record your memories and experiences while on vacation or weekends away, not just your weekdays. I’m on my second journal, and I like to think of it (actually all journals) as a keepsake. It’s a neat way to look back and see where you were on this day last week or six months ago. Growth for me comes from reflection.
I’m a huge believer gratitude can change our day, relationships, business and life. Those who think they don’t have five minutes to spare in a day, are the ones who need to practice gratitude the most. It pauses our day, provides mindfulness and positively shifts our mindset and attitude. If you haven’t yet started a gratitude journal, I highly suggest putting it at the top of your to-do list. The gratitude prompts make it easy, quick and direct!
Why I highly recommend The Five Minute Journal even if you already keep a daily journal!
There are no written rules that say you can't keep more than one journal! Even if you don't want to commit writing in either one everyday, I still highly recommend incorporating them when and where you can. You will find your attitude and mindset is positive, your confidence gets a boost and you will release trying to control things that are out of your hands. Sit back, relax, take five minutes to yourself and write! Your future self will thank you.
Write. Reflect. Learn. Grow.
If you are a journal lover as well, please check out my collection of guided journals that provide 100+ writing prompts in each book.
Happy Journaling!
~ Journals of Discovery
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Are you wanting to support local small businesses this Christmas season but you aren’t sure how? Or, maybe you’re on a budget? No problem!
I’ve summed up seven easy ways you can support small businesses in your local area, and most are without spending a dollar. (I was going to write penny, but I realized we don’t use them anymore! Oops!)
Don’t worry, we as small businesses understand it may not always be feasible or affordable to buy from every single one of us, which is why I’ve created this tip list. There are so many easy, simple, quick and effective ways you can support local. And, you can start today!
1. Share their photos and posts on social media
This is so quick, friends! Facebook and Instagram already have ‘share’ buttons that make it easy! Aren’t sure how? I can help with that too, follow these links.
How to share Instagram posts
How to share Facebook posts
2. Leave a comment or tag one, two, three (you get the point) of your friends in their post
Maybe your friends or family members would be interested in these local products or services? Tag them to find out, or leave a comment of support for the small business.
3. If browsing a store or window shopping, give a shoutout on social media
Whether you’re making a purchase or window shopping, make a small video or take a photo of a few special finds and share on social media. Don’t forget to tag the maker or store, they’ll love it!
4. Pin their products on Pinterest
Pinterest has made it incredibly easy to pin your favourites! Create a new board on your page for your local favourites.
How to create a pin on Pinterest
5. Spread the word
I know there has been a lot of emphasis on social media, and that’s mainly because it has such a wide audience. But, we should never underestimate the power of old fashioned word of mouth. Tell a friend… in person!
6. Leave positive reviews on Google or their Facebook page
Google and Facebook have made leaving reviews so easy. The amount of detail you add is up to you, leave a star base rating, or go all out in full detail of what you enjoy about their product/service. Good ratings help others base their decisions and trust me, the business owner will LOVE seeing a positive review.
How to leave a Google review
How to leave a Facebook review or recommendation
7. Last but not least….. Choose one holiday or occasion a year that you’ll dedicate to purchasing from local businesses
Whether it’s a birthday, anniversary or Christmas, choose one occasion to shop from local businesses. There are many businesses that offer great gifts for holidays, special occasions or day to day items. If you’re looking for some ideas please check out Simcoe County Top 12 Christmas Gift Guide for a starting point.
Are you still wondering why it’s important to support local businesses? If you are, it’s because…
1. When you order from a small business there is legit someone doing a happy dance! I know this first hand because I’m that person, and I know many, many others as well.
2. Everyone benefits from supporting local - the business owner, their community and the economy as a whole.
3. Small businesses offer creativity and uniqueness that you often can’t find in big box stores. Sure they have beautiful items, but they will be the exact same as the thousands of others who just purchased it. Spice it up!
4. The money a small business earns goes back into your local community.
5. You are supporting someones dream!
Thank you for taking the time to support local! I can promise you it’s greatly appreciated.
All the best,
Robyn
I’ve had the pleasure of meeting many people who love shopping local, and also those who want to, but they either don’t know which companies are out there or there’s so many they aren’t sure where to begin.
To help your spirit of shopping local this Christmas I’ve put together a “Top 12 Favourites” for the Simcoe County area. Hopefully it can help as a starting point. Most of these companies I’ve met through local events and some I’ve come across from good ole social media. Regardless of how we’ve met, their hard work and lovely products speak for themselves.
It was difficult narrowing the list down to twelve, but if I didn’t, it would likely be overwhelmingly long. So, I decided to choose a few categories and work from there. These items from local businesses are made with extra T.L.C and are great gifts for friends, moms, dads, neighbours, co-workers and your kiddos! Here they are!
1. Backwood Design Co. - For the foodie!
These beautiful handcrafted Georgian Bay Boards are a stunning way to display any kitchen creation! They are an incredible addition to a large event with family and friends, or a quiet cheese and wine night. Don’t forget to also check our their live edge furniture!
www.backwooddesignco.com
@Backwooddesignco
2. Wild Jewelry - For the nature lover!
These necklaces, bracelets and earrings allow one to carry a little piece of mother nature everywhere they go. Subtle touches of dried flowers and greenery add just the right amount of colour and softness!
www.etsy.com/ca/shop/WildJewelryCanada
@Wild_Jewelry_
3. Wheatfield Knitwear - For the soft and cozy lover!
We all know someone who loves a soft pair of knitted mitts, a handmade scarf or a cozy winter hat! Winter CAN be cute, especially with these beautiful pieces! Spoil yourself or someone you love!
www.wheatfieldknitwear.com
@Wheatfieldknitwear
4. Natasha Woodman - For the relaxation lover!
The holidays can be hectic with not much quiet time. Have a family member or friend who could use an hour to rest and relax in the new year? Natasha is a certified RMT and offers gift certificates for massages! They will be feeling refreshed, maybe a little sleepy, and definitely relaxed.
Linker.ee/massagetherapymama
@Massagetherapistmama
5. Oh BeeHive - For the eco-lover!
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For those who love a great pen! Your friends and family won’t want these pens to disappear off their desk. Blondie and the Beard creates handcrafted pens with many brilliant designs to choose from, or feel free to place a custom order!
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8. Journals of Discovery - For the book and journal lover!
Okay, okay, I’m a little biased because these are my books, but I had to share them. Guided journals for those who love to write and share their stories! And, a sweet, silly rhyming book for the kiddo who loves to read. Pre orders also open for additional guided journals - The Making of a Teacher, The Making of a Strong Woman, The Making of an Entrepreneur & The Making of an Entrepreneur [Boss Babe Edition]
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10. The Vegan Pantry - For the vegan with a sweet tooth!
Heading to a holiday party? Treat the host to a delicious treat they’ll feel good about! The Vegan Pantry is in downtown Barrie and offers 100% vegan, gluten free and refined sugar free items. Don’t forget to check out their full menu and treat list!
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11. Barrie Homemade - For the craft lover!
These homemade crafts are adorable and range from sock moneys for kids to crocheted gnomes and burgers. The children on your Christmas list will have just as much fun playing with these as Kirsten does making them!
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If you’d like to support all of these local businesses but you’re on a budget, or some don’t personally apply, please read how to support local on a budget for tips on ways you can support them today without spending money! There are also many stores in the area that support and carry products from local artisans. Happy Local Shopping!
Please share this list with your friends and family to help spread the word.
Thank you for loving local, I know I can speak for all of us when I say it’s greatly appreciated!
All the best, Merry Christmas & Happy Holidays!
Robyn
Gratitude. This one simple word has changed my life forever.
I keep hearing “be who you needed when you were younger”. My first reaction is to defend my family, because I’ve always felt I had a good childhood. We spent holidays together, went on trips, I was loved and I full heartedly know my parents did the best they could. I’m not sure if it’s a person I could have benefited from, or just the knowledge, but what I needed is simple. Gratitude. I needed gratitude for myself… for my body, my thoughts, my feelings and all of my perfect imperfections. How was I supposed to be grateful for others, things or life in general when I wasn’t even grateful for myself? How could I love someone else unconditionally, when I didn’t even love myself?
Gratitude goes hand in hand with self love. Although I have no regrets in life, while lacking both of these, it certainly lead me down some dark roads. I wasn’t treating my body with the respect and love it so needed and deserved. Instead of nourish and care for my body, I would neglect it. Instead of take pride in my body, I would compare it to everyone else’s. I didn’t appreciate that we are all different and that’s what makes us who we are. I didn’t appreciate that I am the only me there is, and I relied on validation from others instead of loving and honouring myself.
As I look back on my childhood and teenage years there isn’t anything I would change, as its part of who I am now. I am still the same me, just a stronger, more accepting and loving version with a greater sense of awareness through gratitude. Practicing daily gratitude has positively changed my life and views. I’ve learnt that there is gratitude to be found in the tiny moments, the big moments, in the struggles and in who I am.
I’m grateful for being Canadian.
I’m grateful for my body for growing, carrying and delivering my children.
I’m grateful for my marriage that ended in divorce.
I’m grateful for reuniting with my first love after the previous.
I’m grateful for family dinners, hikes and adventures.
I’m grateful for the chipmunks that show up at our patio door during breakfast and dinner time. (They are pretty much our pets)
I’m grateful for having the courage to pursue my dreams and inspire others.
I'm grateful for having an attitude of gratitude
I’m grateful for the support from family, friends and those I have not met.
And, I’m grateful for cuddles with my boys.
I have decided to be the change, and inspire change.
My goal is to encourage love, peace, joy, kindness, fulfillment and resilience through gratitude. With the unrealistic media expectations and the rise in anxiety and self esteem issues, I feel its imperative we act on this now. I have had so much fun creating and publishing a children’s gratitude journal titled The Making of a Grateful Heart. This journal encourages children and families to practice daily gratitude, together, and really appreciate all there is and all that they are.
Once I realized this journal could have benefited me as a child and could benefit my children now, I knew I had to write it. When we are grateful for ourselves, we can find true appreciation and joy for everything else the world has to offer. Without gratitude, we’re just going through the motions but never stopping to admire the little things in life. When is the last time you stopped to listen to the leaves dancing in the wind? Or watch the sunset? When we pay more attention to the little things, the things we often take for granted, we come to realize how beautiful the world really is. I wish for all children to grow up truly loving and appreciating this world as a whole. To know the meaning of and be able to express gratitude in words and through actions.
Gratitude is love, spread it generously!
All the best,
Robyn
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However, there is nothing common about childhood anxiety. Let’s ensure we don’t make it the norm! With this growing concern, I wanted to chat about three ways gratitude can benefit your family, and how to use it to turn back to school into a more positive experience.
1. Gratitude encourages you to look for the good!
I’m not saying it will be easy, especially on the tough days, but gratitude can help turn a bad day into a good day if you let it. Search for the good, the silver lining or the lesson and truly be thankful for it. “Every day may not be good, but there’s good in every day” says it perfectly. Not sure where to get started? See below!
Tips:
Here are a few things your family can express gratitude for: Your home, food, clothing, a neighbour, friend or teacher, the sun, nature, your family pet. Keep it simple! Sometimes it’s the simplest things in life that bring out the most joy. Start with the simple things that quickly come to mind and watch as you begin to find gratitude in all aspects of your life.
Help your child actively look for the good and truly feel and experience the joy of what they DO have, rather than what they DON’T have. Is your child upset they only have one friend? Ask them to list all the reasons why they’re grateful for that one friend. Is your child scared as they transition to a new school? Have them create a list of all the exciting new experiences to come at the new school. Focus on the good!
2. Gratitude keeps you in the present!
How can we truly be happy when we’re busy being upset over the past or fearing tomorrow and the future? Ultimately, all fear does is rob us of today’s happiness. Instead, if we focus on gratitude for where we are and what we have today, we will then begin to experience joy and peace. Gratitude encourages mindfulness and being present, one day at a time.
Help your child focus on and find the good about TODAY, and do not put pressure on tomorrow. Use a journal to create gratitude lists or check out my guided children's journal The Making of a Grateful Heart !
3. Gratitude teaches you to appreciate… YOU!
Children (along with adults) are comparing themselves to others instead of being grateful for who and what they are. Let’s not waste our time and energy being anything we aren’t. Encourage your child to embrace all that makes them special and unique because a. It would be boring if we were all the same, and b. They were created to be different!
Tips:
With your child, write out all the great qualities and things that are unique to them and make them who they are. Remind them the world needs them as they are! Also, ensure your child doesn’t see or hear you comparing yourself to others… they are always watching and listening.
As parents, we need to get excited about the things we want our children to be excited about. They’re constantly observing, so if your words and actions aren’t lining up – they’ll know! Keep a positive attitude, show gratitude, look for the good, lend a listening ear, be patient and encourage them to stay active and be kids!
Sometimes we miss the signs of anxiety in children, and if your kids are anything like mine it’s hard to get more than one-word answers.
So, I’ve put together a few common signs of anxiety in children to watch for:
For more information you can visit Anxiety Canada
Back to school can be fun, not just for our children, but for adults. Let’s embrace the transition, although it’s sometimes hectic and messy, and be thankful our children have the opportunity to learn and grow. School should be a safe learning playground, let’s help our children to see that, too. A reminder to look for the good, and to patiently help your child to as well!
All the best, I hope you enjoy practicing gratitude as a family!
Robyn
(This post is not to act as a substitute for medical care. If your child is experiencing severe anxiety or depression, please consult your family physician.)
I’ve enjoyed chatting about journaling with many people lately, and I quickly noticed a pattern of misconceptions. Is journalling for everyone? Maybe not. But, those I were talking to all had an interest or wanted to learn how to journal, however, they felt stuck. If you have any of these same misconceptions, I hope this will help!
#1 Misconception - Journaling takes too much time
The amount of time you spend writing in your journal is completely up to you! Some days you may have three pages of writing, whereas other days you may have three sentences. It’s not a competition, spend as much or as little time as you’d like.
If you are new to keeping a journal or diary, starting with a few short sentences is a great place to begin. Or, you can go all in! There is no written rule that you’re required to spend an hour writing, sometimes five minutes is all you need.
I find the days I don’t feel like writing because I don’t think I have enough time, are the days I need it most. I use journaling to unwind and finish the day with a clear mind.
#2 Misconception - I have to write in my journal daily
Again, this goes hand in hand with journaling taking too much time. If you like journal writing but don’t want to commit to it everyday, then set aside ten minutes on a Sunday evening to talk about your week, or the last day of the month to reflect.
It’s just like forming any habit, it takes time and practice. Do what feels right for you. Some weeks you may be going through an experience that has you wanting to write everyday, and other times you may not feel the urge for a few weeks.
Journaling is more about sharing your story and giving your thoughts and feelings a home, it’s not about a schedule.
#3 Misconception - I didn’t do anything interesting to write about
Your journal doesn’t care if you went skydiving, ran a marathon or sat and binge watched Netflix. Journaling isn’t about being over the top interesting or just documenting the big and exciting moments. It’s about expressing your thoughts, feelings and reflections on any experience in a positive and non judgemental setting.
You can write about your favourite or least favourite part of the day and why. You can write about the show you are binge watching and why you enjoy it or how you relate to it. Or, you can write about the friend you finally caught up with over lunch. I suggest writing whatever comes to mind.
As you get comfortable and let go of filtering your thoughts, the words will come naturally.
It’s your journal, and it’s your rules!
Your journal is meant to share, reflect and let go, so be sure to have fun with it and not take it too seriously. I envision my journals as keepsakes, whether it’s for myself to look through one day or my children, I think that’s what makes them special.
Journals give our story a home.
Check out my collection of guided journals for another way you can start writing today!
]]>My parents recently found and gave me an old diary of mine. Wow, did it ever bring back memories! As I flipped through the pages filled with writing and doodling I couldn’t stop smiling. There were so many laughs, tears, obstacles and milestones that were preserved through my writing. At the time I wrote in the diary I had no clue what the benefits of journaling were, I just knew I enjoyed the safe place to share my thoughts, feelings and experiences. I’ve had a love and appreciation for journaling for as long as I can remember.
So, whether you don’t think you have time to journal or aren’t sure how – I want to help! I’ve broken out the 5 W’s of journaling; who, what, where, when, and why you could benefit from it.
WHO should keep a journal?
Yourself, your child, your spouse, your friends, your parents, your neighbor, your cousins, your co-workers… everyone.
It’s not just the person journaling that benefits either. I view life as a ripple effect. When we are happy, at peace and shining bright, our light and energy passes on to those around us.
WHAT is journaling?
Anyone can give you the official definition, but I will speak from my heart. Journaling is a feeling and an experience. It’s allowing your pen to flow across the page as unedited thoughts pour out. Some days you may open your journal knowing exactly what will or needs to come out. Other days, words or emotions will come out that you didn’t realize needed to.
Journaling is keeping your everyday experiences and your grand adventures safe. It’s a collection of pure moments throughout time that have shaped you into who you are today.
The types of journals are endless. You can keep one, five or however many you wish. I keep four and they are:
Daily Journal or “diary”: Here is where I write about my day, my goals, my frustrations, my excitement, my fears, my gratitude – you name it, it’s in there. It’s a safe place to document the day, and to simply let it go. Whether it’s a big day, or a quiet day, I share it.
Children’s Gratitude Journal: My children and I practice daily gratitude together by using one of the journals in my own collection – The Making of a Grateful Heart . I am determined to raise grateful children and sitting together to find the grateful moments in our day together has been an incredible tool.
Work Journal: This journal is quite different than my others. Here is where I use bullet points, random thoughts or creative ideas to brainstorm. I use this journal to explore new avenues, write to do lists or action plans.
Journal for my Kids: I know a lot of fellow mamas who also keep a journal to document their child’s random days or big milestone moments. When they took their first steps, which foods they liked/disliked, funny things they’ve said or just what they did that day. I think its fun to look back and be able to remember little details even on the quiet days. They may also enjoy reading it when they are older!
WHERE should I journal?
Any place, any time. The best part about writing is that you aren’t confined to a place. You can write in bed, on a bench at the park, on an airplane, at the bus stop, in the bath, at a local café – anywhere!
Sometimes I keep my journal with me so that if something comes up or I have time, I can write it out. My favourite places to write are in the backyard during summer and in bed, nice and cozy.
WHEN to start a journal:
It’s been known that many people begin journaling when they are going through a big or hard experience. I always suggest starting today, no matter what your age or circumstances are. By journaling today, you prepare yourself for the future because you become more aware of yourself and what’s happening around you.
WHY should I journal?
There are many benefits of journaling, including (but certainly not limited to):
And my favourite reason why, is because everyone has a story that deserves to be told. Whether you keep your journal to yourself or one day pass it down, your life and story will always have a home. When you think about the world, we seem so small, but we aren’t. Our life experiences, decisions and our feelings have impacted the lives of many. And by telling our story we are sharing our piece of the puzzle.
If you are a lover of journals please check out my collection of guided journals, and don’t forget to subscribe for new releases, inspiration and promotions!
I was honoured and thrilled to record with Sarah Swain on her podcast The Great Canadian Woman. Sarah gives Canadian women a platform for sharing their personal stories, strength and resilience.
Grateful Carley Inglis allowed me the opportunity to share my insights on balancing running a business while also taking care of my family.
Kelsey is a Canadian mom who shares everyday motherhood moments. She is honest, encouraging and featured The Making of a Teacher on her gift guide for teachers!
Do you ever look around a crowded room or grocery store lineup and wonder who everyone is, and what their story entails? Where were they born? What has their week been like? Maybe I take people watching to the next level, but I’m incredibly curious about everyone’s story. It’s not judging, it’s simply appreciating that we all have separate lives, yet together we make up this huge beautiful puzzle on earth.
Why do they look sad right now? What’s put that extra hop in their step? Or what are they passionate about? There are so many questions and so much to learn from one another. I truly believe everyone has a story unique to them that is deserving of celebration and being heard. Is every part of ones story full of joy and good times? Probably not! But it’s all of the experiences, thoughts and feelings that are what shaped us along the way.
Knowing we all have a story is the main reason I smile at pretty much anyone I make eye contact with. Maybe they are having their worst day ever, but a smile from a stranger gives them hope. Or maybe they’re having a wonderful day and exchanging a smile with someone for no reason just makes it that much brighter.
We really have no idea what someone is going through or has gone through. And for that we should judge less, be mindful, be curious and most of all be kind.
I hope you take the time to think about your own story and all of the experiences that have brought you where you are today. It’s not just the milestone moments that make us who we are, it’s the everyday seemingly small moments that encourage who we are. May you celebrate all that you are while appreciating that everyone has a story!
Feel free to check out my collection of guided journals to document your own story and all it entails!
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What is gratitude?
Being grateful goes further than saying "thank you". Gratitude is being mindful of your surroundings, being present in the moment, being aware of and expressing gratitude for the people and things in our lives. Gratitude isn't an act, it's a lifestyle. It's a practice that can take time to make a habit, but once you do it's life changing.
Gratitude has the potential to turn a bad or "blah" day, into a great day. It puts life into perspective by opening our eyes and senses to nature, our family, strangers and the little things in life we often taken for granted. When we take the time to realize how many blessings we have, we no longer focus on all of the things we don't have. Gratitude is teaching us to be happy, just because!
Benefits of Practicing Gratitude
Gratitude can be practiced by anyone at anytime. You don't even need anything - except your attention. Gratitude is important for many reasons and the benefits are substantial. Practicing gratitude has the ability to:
How to Teach Gratitude
Here I will share tips on how to raise a grateful child. Unfortunately teaching gratitude is not a miracle one time discussion or activity, but I can guarantee the work you put in will not be wasted. Raising grateful children goes far beyond saying, “Thank you”. It’s being mindful, happy, finding fulfillment, love and appreciation for oneself, nature and all that surrounds us.
Here are a few gratitude activities you can begin with today!
Express Gratitude to Others:
Let your child witness you, their role model, expressing gratitude. Whether it’s to your child for getting dressed without asking, thanking a stranger for holding the door, or baking your neighbours cookies because they shovelled your driveway for you. It seems simple, but we get into a routine or zone and sometimes miss the small things.
Write it Out in a Gratitude Journal:
Have your child keep a daily gratitude journal (such as The Making of a Grateful Heart!) and complete it together. A guided journal will form the habit, and with consistency they will begin thinking about reasons to feel grateful without being prompted.
Get Creative!:
As a family, look for reasons to be grateful wherever you are. You may be driving, going for a nature walk or simply hanging out at home. Spark the conversation in different environments and watch as your family becomes more aware of whats really around you on a day-to-day basis.
Make a Gratitude Plant:
If your little ones are like mine, they love crafts and anything interactive. Two of my favourites are having my children draw a picture of what they’re grateful for, and making a gratitude tree. Our tree is more of a plant, but you get the idea. We each take a few tags and write on them what we’re grateful for, then hang them on the branches or leaves. Keep the plant or tree where you will see it daily, and it will be another reminder of practicing gratitude. Feel free to switch out the tags as often as you’d like! Here's a photo of our families gratitude plant!
Trust me parents, I know we have enough on our plates. But if you make practicing and encouraging gratitude fun, I promise it won’t feel like work! It’s another way to enjoy quality family time together and open new conversation with your children. For some added inspiration, here are additional benefits of practicing daily gratitude:
Enjoy practicing gratitude with your family and watch as everyone benefits!
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What is The Making of a Grandparent?
The Making of a Grandparent is a guided keepsake journal for grandparents. It documents and uncovers their childhood experiences, insights, proudest moment, greatest challenge and so much more. This journal helps share a grandparents story and legacy so it can be passed on for many future generations to enjoy!
Inspiration behind The Making of a Grandparent
After thinking about my granny and grandmother who had both passed away, I realized I wish I had done a few things differently. Ask more questions! All of our conversations seemed to be about my family and our daily lives. I cherish and value the moments and conversations we had together, however, I wish I had been more curious and dug a little deeper with questions about them.
What was their childhood like? What experiences shaped them along the way? What are they most proud of?
Although I could ask my parents and relatives questions about my grandmother's, it just wasn't the same. The stories get filtered and the details just aren't there. The first hand stories are truly irreplaceable.
I created the guided keepsake journal The Making of a Grandparent as a tool for others to learn about their grandparents, and strengthen their relationships. Through guided questions and prompts, this journal honours your grandparents journey and insights so that many generations can get to know them as well. Ultimately, I didn't want anyone else having the same regrets that I had.
Since sharing this journal, I have heard such incredible stories about their other's grandparents life experiences. This journal will ensure that your grandparents stories and spirit live on, which is what we all wish to happen. It also allows future generations to get to know them as well.
Your grandparents have loved you your whole life, giving their legacy a place to live on is the greatest gift you could give them.
I hope you cherish your time with your grandparents and ask as many questions as you can - whether they are seemingly insignificant or silly - you only regret the questions you don't ask. So ask, ask, ask and enjoy The Making of a Grandparent to keep your grandma or grandparent's legacy!
All the best,
Robyn
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